I stumbled upon Rebecca Scritchfield’s Nurture Principles and I was delighted at from first glance! Rebecca is a fellow RD and I haven’t had the pleasure to meet her in person (yet) but this philosophy meshes so well with mine that I was inspired to mention it.
No matter what we are doing, I rarely meet someone who doesn’t feel they should be doing more (especially women) And one of my favorite quotes is a Buddhist saying, “You can search the world over and will never find anyone more deserving of your love than yourself”.
It’s shown up in different ways at different times in my life: Running on injuries and making them worse. Eating disorders in high school. Doing a double degree program in grad school (& working part time). Pushing myself through many years of illness and not reaching out for help when I needed it. Not only didn’t I get the love and support I needed, but I deprived my friends of the opportunity to be there for me, too. At this point I consider myself a recovering Type A. I understand my actions, and yet, wish I could have had the wisdom to be kinder and gentler to myself and put “me first” more often. I also struggle with step 2 of “me first”, which is not feeling guilty about step 1.
I’ve made “me first” a priority. And certainly chronic pain and fatigue ‘helps’ because I have an immediate, palpable reminder from my body of what it needs, and what it doesn’t. I meditate almost every day, and host a mediation group, too. I eat good food and thoroughly enjoy my indulgences. As you well know, I plan our meals weekly, which greatly reduces my stress. Especially in the summer-ish months, I’m outside enjoying nature every day. I have a job I adore and am working on the ability to say “no”.
And yet it’s still an every day practice. I have even more need to put my well being first, especially as we get ready to move and there is much more chaos at home. So I’m hoping the badge will help remind me of what is most important. Some people view self-care as extravagant or self-indulgent, but IMHO, that couldn’t be further than the truth. Children learn their self worth through how they are treated, but also the way we treat ourselves. And I know I function better and am a better human being when I take good care of myself. I can’t do anywhere near as much to help the people I love take better care of themselves (or my clients) unless I first take care of myself, and treat myself with kindness and gentleness.
Now, it’s time for bed.
Peace, love and broccoli,